If you're contemplating taking on an expat assignment, it's possible that while you're trying to work out if you can live without your favourite local Chinese restaurant, two others things keep running through your mind.
Money and travel.
Maybe you've done the calculations on what you can save by renting out your house or perhaps you're just celebrating the fact that you no longer have to pay someone else's mortgage - finally a rent free existence.
Then there's the holidays. With a new location on the other side of the world this could be your chance to finally explore Asia, South America or the States. Which takes me back to point number one.
Money.
In our early expat years G and I went anywhere and everywhere. With only one child who was yet to start school and a role for G that required travel throughout Asia, we made the most of it. If G had a meeting in Thailand we'd all pack up and head off together. While G went off to work I'd strap The First Little Traveler in a backpack and head in search of food, trinkets and dodgy knock offs. And then reality hit.
Another child, another plane fare, another bed in a hotel room and suddenly it wasn't as cheap (or as easy) to bring the family along.
In fact, when we checked the bank balance we realized we weren't saving any money at all. All of those "bargains" had started to add up. Turns out if you buy 5 pairs of cheap sunglasses they're actually not that cheap after all. If the grand plan of eventually having a house in Australia was going to happen, something had to change. And as close as Bali, Phuket, Singapore and Langkowi were, it was financially unrealistic to think we could do all of them.
On Thursday afternoon the Little Travelers walked out of the school yard excited about the following week of their school holidays. I listened as they said their goodbyes to friends. Someone was off to Nepal, someone else was going to London, someone had a scrapbook with their map of Disneyland that they had been working on for months. It was school holidays and there was a buzz in the air.
I thought back to my school holidays in our little country town. Someone might have driven to Adelaide and slept on their Aunty's floor so that they could go to the Royal Show. Someone else might have stayed in a caravan park in Mt Gambier where it was so freaking cold their father drove them to the communal toilet block at night. Or maybe they just rode their bike to the pool every single day knowing they'd run in to someone they knew if they hung around for long enough. Yes, all of those people might have been me.
I like to share these stories with my children in the familiar when-I-went-to-school-we-walked-5-miles-in-the-rain kind of way, particularly when they ask why we're not going to Disneyland.
Over breakfast on Friday the third little traveller announced that he might pop over to visit a friend on the compound "you can't" said the second little traveler "remember - he's gone to Mt Everest".
The sentence above is not one I recall saying in my childhood. Someone went to Sydney once but I can't remember a passport ever being required.
I think back to the caravan holiday, the road trip to Ballarat. "Did I tell you about when Mummy was little and we stayed in the Motel in Bendigo and Granny let us have hot breakfast instead of the cereal we'd bought from home?"
They can see where the story is heading, soon I'll mention walking to school in the rain.

Can so relate! Great post...
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LOL - I grew up in South Africa and the stories we tell our daughter are how we had to walk 5 miles in the snow !!!!
ReplyDeleteHow about a pop over to the UAE for some camping in the desert?
ReplyDeleteYep. That's the way it is here...everybody is off in all directions. Of course, husband and I had very strange upbringings overseas, which seem bizarre and exotic to our own kids, raised as they were in American suburbs. Our roles are actually a bit reversed these days...
ReplyDeleteThe other night we were puzzling over how we have saved very little (translation: none) money in the six months we have been in Singapore. How? HOW?
ReplyDeletePhuket, Langkawi, Hong Kong Disneyland, Cambodia and Vietnam perhaps? Whilst they've had some amazing experiences my kids would swap it all for a week of freezing weather at our Phillip Island holiday house.
Yeah Kirsty, you lived so far away from school!! Yours was the place we went to wag lessons and get back in time for the bell. I see no mention of the exciting times had cutting apricots during the summer holidays. Rather forgotten, I think. K
ReplyDeleteNice post and can relate with you! We've been trying to do fun "staycations" like popping out a tent in our living room. It's not Mt. Everest, but we still have fun and save some money as well.
ReplyDeletethank you! Youve just helped me think of a whole new speech "in Mummy's school holidays Granny would sent me out to work every day cutting apricots for 68 cents a tray"..... "and then we'd walk home for 5 miles in the rain"
ReplyDeleteWow, kids nowadays seem so much more, erm, grown up!
ReplyDeletewow, you hit a good point at the center of many path of worries, at least for me.
ReplyDeleteFew months ago I was on a low cost to London, as my husband was there for work during the week so I joined in with my daughter and then we spent the weekend over to friends. Next to me was sitting a very nice guy, it occurred he was a long time expat in the O&G sector, kind of very wealthy, but still he told me to enjoy the moment, since his third child, he stopped to travel with them, (now they are 6) cause its just too expensive, so they bought a holiday house and they go there all the time "Felt sorry at the beginning to deprive the latter of same treats of the first two but hey, They will travel on their money when they will be adults, as I did".
As a single child of middle class parents I didnt miss anything in my days, I used to go abroad in Europe more than other school mates but still I never been on a plane until 24 with ryanair, while my daughter went to beijing being 5 months in business class.
My husband's first 10 years of life were in comunist Poland, so his tales of childhood are much ttougher than mines.
Our main worry, if things carry on to be financially good for us, is to manage to raise our kid being aware of what is special, as we dont want her to take for granted ,as normality, what in her situation of expat kid is not.
I just mentioned you yesterday on my blog (but it
is a post in italian) as my mentor :-) and this post you wrote today is again a confirmati on of it. Thank you!
Your post had me laughing and relating and reminiscing all at once. Now that we are stateside after being expats for only a year our children have a zeal for travel. They still think it is possible for the six of us to hop on a plane to visit friends in Spain, at no expense to them of course. We traveled more in our year abroad than we had been able to previously. And the same was true in our compound and circle of friends, come the holidays and everyone was off somewhere exotic and exciting. Still, the time together is priceless, regardless of being in jammies at home or on a plane to Disneyland!
ReplyDeleteOh yes - we are almost 6 months in on our expat adventure in PNG (we are from Brisbane) and not that long ago MR 5 asked me when we were going to move to another country as lots of the kids in his class have lived in lots of countries - the joys of an international school (I do LOVE our school). We are hoping to do a bit of travel next year - nothing too spectacular - I am sure Mr 7, Mr 5 and Miss 2 will have grander travel plans than us :)
ReplyDeleteWe went travel crazy when we lived in Europe and it's very hard explaining to Miss 9 that we won't be able to travel so much when we get to Thailand because there is a new person this time and it won't be as easy.
ReplyDeleteI remember listening to people in Adelaide always talking about going up to the river and staying in a shack in the holidays - I never worked out "where up the river" was!
ps: we went out and bought all new luggage for our trip, we put our luggage tags on it all and stored it by the door. there was only 8 cases but it looked like a lot and I instantly though of all the cases you guys would have! We have to hire a mini van to get us to the airport...guessing you do to :)
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